When I was a young maiden, between the age of 11 to 18 years old, I found I was on a journey of self-discovery. With starting my menstrual cycle, starting junior high school, learning more about my friends dating, learning that dating was the “thing” to do, going to parties, being able to go out with my friends without parents around, trying to find and be my authentic self, and trying to look at all of this as freedom, became somewhat of a confusing time for me.
I was raised by a mother, who in her mind, decided that if she didn’t talk to me about my menstrual cycle, dating, and sexual intercourse, then it wouldn’t be something that would happen to me. Well surprise! No matter how much she wanted to hide the fact, I was still going to grow up and experience these things; she would have to deal with it.
First, I will say, it wasn’t her fault she didn’t know how to deal with these topics of conversation; it was the fact that in her day, it wasn’t something they would feel comfortable talking about openly (there were many things she kept to herself, but we will get into that later). Unlike the beauty of today’s day and age; everything is there to discuss.
To be honest with you, it was because of the fact, I didn’t have the comfort knowing I could go to my mom and talk about everything is how Three Moons Three Souls began. I wanted you to know that no matter what, I would create a safe place for you to ask any questions. If I didn’t have the answer, I would make sure I would help you find many answers to choose from; we need options in our lives to find out what it is that works best for us as an individual.
I wish I would have had someone I could have talked to, especially on the day I woke up (on my 11th birthday) and thought I was dying. It turned out, I wasn’t dying, I had just started my menstrual cycle. Talk about being scared! All Mom did was hand me a pad, told me to shrug it off, and to get to school.
I learned many lessons that day, but the one I will cherish forever is when I had it in me to think of creating “Women’s Day”. I would somehow find a moment during “my time of the month” to be grateful no matter how much pain I was in. I was grateful I taught myself to welcome my cycle knowing that one day I could, perhaps try to have a family of my own. It seemed I was on a Mission, not to get pregnant, but that when I would get pregnant and have a family, I would do things differently with my children. I wanted them to have all the wisdom I could share with them without hesitation.
My experiences would teach my children with love rather than with disgust.
This topic is a lengthy one and I promise this conversation will be continued 😉
Blessings To You All
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